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“Our wounds are often the openings into the best and most beautiful part of us.” - David Richo

Due to the current pandemic, we are providing all sessions online. 


 

Individual Counseling

All of us have problems at times, periods when we’re depressed or anxious, when life’s stresses seem overwhelming. Most of the time we can resolve these problems ourselves. But sometimes we can’t; sometimes it’s just smarter to seek the help of experts. Because my approach is so practical and down-to-earth, we can often get your life back on track in just a few sessions – what is called “solution-focused” treatment. Other times, you may be seeking therapy for a different reason: you might have reached a point in your life where you realize you repeat self-destructive patterns, and you want to stop. Through long-term counseling – six months or longer – you can make deep, permanent changes, reverse your negative cycles, and prevent future repetitions of chronic problems.

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Relationship Counseling

For many of us, problems with our partners can be the most frustrating issues we have to face, leaving us feeling upset, overwhelmed, and miserable. We start our relationships feeling hopeful, buoyant, and exhilarated, believing we have found our ‘soul mate’. Symptoms of a relationship in trouble can include one or more of the following: you don’t have fun with each other any more; your sex life is unsatisfying or non-existent; you have angry, escalating arguments where you say hurtful, mean things to each other; you are cold and distant with each other; you disagree over everything, even when you know the issues are trivial. Couples therapy can teach clients communication skills, which allow clients to address any issues that are causing residual resentment, anger or other problems.

The approach I use in relationship therapy is not based on the idea that a couple will necessarily stay together. That is not always the best outcome, but my services are designed to help improve communication and help people discover what the best outcome is for them. This can also be helpful for parents who are breaking up but who still need to communicate to raise their children together.

I have experience in working with people in open relationships of a variety of types and I am willing and able to do therapy sessions with people in relationships that involve more than two participants. I also have experience helping couples who are in the process of opening their relationships manage the complicated feelings that can arise.

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Sex Therapy

A large majority of people of people experience sexual difficulties of some sort in their lives. These include lack of desire, difficulty reaching orgasm, problems maintaining arousal, erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, vaginal pain and general sexual dissatisfaction. These problems can be caused by anxiety and stress, lack of sexual knowledge and/or experience, childhood trauma, relational difficulties, and physical problems. Our culture has an inexcusable lack of good basic pleasure focused sex education, which can leave people at a loss as to how to deal with these issues.

In addition people frequently have sexual desires that are a part of their psyche which are not a part of their current interactions with their partners. Sex therapy can help people come to terms with the reality of the things that arouse them and learn how to incorporate those activities into their interactions with partners or their personal experience. Sometimes this process also involves helping clients learn good dating skills and find partners.

Sex therapy never involves direct sexual experience in the therapist’s office. Through individual and couples therapy, sex therapy helps people explore and understand the origin of their sexual difficulties, provides specific knowledge about sexual function and suggests methods to increase sexual satisfaction.

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Clinical Supervision

Therapists in the field often benefit from having someone to discuss cases with and get support and advice. As a certified sex therapist with a long history of working with clients in kink, polyamorous, swing and LGBTQIA communities I can give you a unique perspective and set of tools to use with clients. The goal of clinical supervision is to help you build the confidence and theoretical knowledge that you need to do the work. In addition I can help you develop marketing strategies to help you build your practice.

 

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Executive Functioning Coaching

Executive functioning is the collection of skills that help you get everyday things done such as organization, planning and prioritizing, or impulse control. People who tend to struggle with this may get the diagnosis of obsessive-compulsive, attention-deficit hyperactivity, or autism; but these skills can also get very difficult with depression, anxiety, and trauma. Tasks frequently feel overwhelming, unsurpassable, or just impossible to start. You tell yourself that you just need self discipline and others tell you to “just do it” and yet, here those pesky tasks sit week-to-week. Executive Functioning Coaching is a customizable program that takes you through many skills to build up your time, self, and space management skills so you can feel more accomplished and more confident in yourself.

 

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Opening Up Coaching

“Opening Up” is the phrase commonly used by people who are moving from a monogamous (or “closed”) relationship to a non-monogamous one. Clients who come for Opening Up Coaching have maybe read books or tried opening up before but they have hit a snag or made a mistake and someone got hurt. Or maybe the clients are new to non-monogamy altogether and they do not want to become one of the horror stories they hear from friends or the internet. While we believe there is no “perfect” way to practice non-monogamy, we offer our expertise to give you the best tools possible and support you through your first few steps. Opening Up is a topic covered in both therapy and coaching. Therapy is a better fit for relationships where one or more people are skeptical about opening up while coaching is a great option for people who are both motivated to open up (even if really scared or managing jealousy).
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