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Upcoming Events

 

Sexy Education #6: Comings & Goings (Orgasm & Arousal)
Online Event
Tuesday, November 22, 2022 from 7 PM – 9 PM
$40 (sliding scale available)

It’s our final session of this sex education journey together, so it seems fitting that one of our topics is also climactic– the orgasm! We’re demystifying the experiences of arousal and desire as well as having some real talk about the big O. If you’ve ever struggled with cumming (very quickly, very slowly, or not at all), wondered if you could change how you orgasm, had a mismatched level of desire with your partner, or found yourself unexpectedly wanting either much more or much less sex than your usual, this session is for you.

Your guide on this journey is Rebecca Rose Vassy, The Pincus Center’s resident sex educator as well as a sex, relationship, and body image coach and separately the host of the sexy storytelling show Smut Slam DC. Expect the same mix of edutainment, sex positivity, inclusiveness, ridiculous humor, body affirmation, and sheer nerdiness that she brings to the stage.

 

Sexy Education #5: Intro to Sex Toys
Online Event
Tuesday, November 29, 2022 from 7 PM – 9 PM
$40 (sliding scale available)

Our next to last session of Sexy Educations takes us to the magical world of Toyland, where we’ll take a tour through the many types of sex toys and tools out there. We’ll talk about how to tell whether a toy is good quality and body-safe, some of the variations to look out for, and different ways to use toys with a partner or solo. We’re also going to bust some myths about what it “means” to use sex toys and their role in partnered sex. Toys and tools make sex more accessible, more pleasurable for many, and sometimes even possible.

Your guide on this journey is Rebecca Rose Vassy, The Pincus Center’s resident sex educator as well as a sex, relationship, and body image coach and separately the host of the sexy storytelling show Smut Slam DC. Expect the same mix of edutainment, sex positivity, inclusiveness, ridiculous humor, body affirmation, and sheer nerdiness that she brings to the stage.

 

Practical Polyamory #4: Money & More
Online Event
Thursday, December 1, 2022 from 7 PM – 9 PM
$40 (sliding scale available)

**Please note that there’s a week break between the previous class and this one due to Thanksgiving. Please also be aware that nothing in this session constitutes legal or financial advice unless we specify that it is provided by a professional. You should consult the appropriate professional about your situation before taking action in any of these areas.**

You may have heard the common ENM dream of “a shared house/commune where the whole polycule can live together”. But how would that actually work? How do you form a family when only couples can legally marry? How do you manage money with multiple partners? How can you secure legal rights for the partners you want to visit you in the hospital or co-parent your children? This might be our most practical of the Practical Polyamory sessions, as we give you an overview of how to handle some of the logistics involved in bringing your ENM dream into reality.

Your guide on this journey is Rebecca Rose Vassy, The Pincus Center’s resident educator as well as a sex, relationship, and body image coach with almost three decades of experience in polyamory. Her compassionate, inclusive style is down-to-earth and sometimes downright earthy. She meets you where you are, because she’s been there herself.

 

Etheric Hygiene: An Energy-Clearing Meditation Group
Online Event
Sunday, December 4, 2022 from 7:15 PM – 8:30 PM
$22 (sliding scale available)

When you embrace self-care, you’re mindful of the nutrients you take in and when, of getting enough deep rest, of moving your body and showing it tenderness, of seeking emotional comfort and social connection when you need it. But what of your energetic self-care?

We all benefit from dedicated reflective time that allows us to go within and give our energy centers the same loving kindness that we (hopefully) give our physical selves. Join embodiment and breathwork coach Rev. Jenellen Fischer for a little over an hour a month to gather in like-hearted community, set and share intentions, and clear our energetic centers.

 

Red Flag, Green Flag: Finding and Building Healthy Intimate Relationships
Online Event
Tuesday, December 06, 2022 from 7 PM – 9 PM
$40 (sliding scale available)

When are your relationship struggles just regular rough patches, and when are they a sign that you’re in a toxic situation? Over time, you might have become so used to your relationship “red flags” that getting upset about them feels like overreacting or asking too much. And what if you’re the type of person who doesn’t like to rock the boat, who’s used to adapting to others’ needs, or who feels like you don’t deserve “too much”? What if you find yourself acting out red flag behavior? It’s often hard to get a clear look at your intimate relationships on your own, especially if you were never shown what a truly functional and healthy love dynamic looks like.

Join relationship educator and coach Rebecca Rose Vassy for a virtual workshop that will help you take stock of your relationship beliefs, identify common red flags, and learn what “green flags” to seek out and work toward. Whether you’re single and trying to prepare for your next partnership, in a monogamous relationship, in more than one ethically non-monogamous/polyamorous relationships, or even a parent thinking about how you’ll teach your teens about dating, this workshop will give you tools and skills for a richer, more rewarding love life.

 

Practical Polyamory #5: Healthy Household Management
Online Event
Thursday, December 8, 2022 from 7 PM – 9 PM
$40 (sliding scale available)

Nesting (living together) is a goal for many ENM folks– as is nesting with more than one partner. But even if you live alone or with one partner, ENM poses some unique challenges to maintaining a happy and harmonious home. How are labor and finances managed among everyone? How often does a partner have to stay over before they’re part of the household and not just a guest? What are your boundaries around your space? Let’s talk about setting up a household that sets you up for success.

Your guide on this journey is Rebecca Rose Vassy, The Pincus Center’s resident educator as well as a sex, relationship, and body image coach with almost three decades of experience in polyamory. Her compassionate, inclusive style is down-to-earth and sometimes downright earthy. She meets you where you are, because she’s been there herself.

 

Topping for the Nervous Beginner
Online Event
Tuesday, December 13, 2022 from 7 PM – 8:30 PM
$40 (sliding scale available)

In a sudden plot twist, you’ve got the opportunity to Top a BDSM partner. Maybe you’ve always seen yourself as a bottom or s-type. Maybe you’ve been unexpectedly asked to Top your partner, or maybe you feel the urge to try switching for fun. What about when your partner wants to bottom, but only to you? Great– so where do you start?

It’s common to be nervous as hell about Topping! It doesn’t matter why you’re doing it– because many Tops and D-types enjoy bottoming for certain activities or scenes now and then, because sometimes couples want to try switching, or because you may want to explore playing with someone new in a different capacity than your usual role. This class is for folks who are new to BDSM roles as well as those who identify as bottoms and s-types but want to gain more Topping skills and confidence. Join kink educator and sex therapist AJ Cheyfitz in this virtual workshop.

 

Practical Polyamory #6: Handling Relationship Transitions
Online Event
Thursday, December 15, 2022 from 7 PM – 9 PM
$40 (sliding scale available)

Relationships are never static– change is the only constant. We don’t spend enough time talking about some of the big transitions we can experience in ENM, so let’s start fixing that. How do you navigate a breakup, especially if you still have a shared polycule? What happens when two partners decide to get legally married when they also have other partners? Can you transition from lovers to friends (and maybe back again)? Is it a good idea for metas to become partners as well? This session will explore some very common situations and ways to handle them, but it’ll be heavy on the discussion– so bring your life experiences and the situations you’re worried about or wrestling with.

Your guide on this journey is Rebecca Rose Vassy, The Pincus Center’s resident educator as well as a sex, relationship, and body image coach with almost three decades of experience in polyamory. Her compassionate, inclusive style is down-to-earth and sometimes downright earthy. She meets you where you are, because she’s been there herself.

 

Sensual Sundays: An Embodied Eros Meditation Group
Online Event
Sunday, December 18, 2022 from 7:15 PM – 8:30 PM
$22 (sliding scale available)

In the quiet of your Sunday evening, come together once a month with a group that feels drawn to explore the mindful sensuality arts. Set your intentions for the week and the month to come, and get comfortable for a meditative journey home to your deepest erotic self.

Join embodiment and breathwork coach and certified Urban Tantra® facilitator Rev. Jenellen Fischer for a virtual guided meditation session that will allow you to feel into your own sensual energy, the eros or life force that flows through each of us and connects us all in Universal union. The experience is relaxing, rejuvenating, and brings you more fully into your body and your senses. For some, the energy that rises will feel sexual and juicy; for others, warm and sensual; and still others, peaceful and fulfilling. In this shame-free, welcoming, inclusive space, all experiences are honored.

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Leading Edge Love – Tamara Pincus, Licensed Social Worker, Sex Therapist, Author

This week, her guest is Tamara Pincus, Licensed Social Worker, Sex Therapist & Author (www.tamarapincus.com).  Sumati Sparks, The Open Relationship Coach, (www.SumatiSparks.com) offers coaching sessions via video conferencing, telephone or in person in the San Francisco Bay Area.

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The Swingset invites Tamara Pincus and Rebecca Hiles, authors of the new book “It’s Called Polyamory” onto the show to discuss the many things people both new and experienced to nonmonogamy, specifically, polyamory, may encounter. They join Dylan Thomas, Dr. Liz Powell, and Chris Pent.

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Polyamory is the practice, desire, or acceptance of having more than one intimate partner.

As a certified sex therapist and psychotherapist, who has also made her own journey through the sexual exploration and acceptance, I am able to bring a unique perspective…

For a lay audience, I have offered classes called “Ask the Sex Therapist” where people can find out what they need to know about sexual functioning, BDSM, Sexual Orientation gender identity and ethical non-monogamy.

I have spoken at such events as the Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit, AASECT, Greater Washington Society for Clinical Social Work, SSSS, Catalyst Con, Lotus Blooms and the University of Maryland

In the past I have given talks on: How to be a poly friendly therapist Ethics in psychotherapy

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Past Events

Making Love to the Whole Body
Saturday, January 4th, 2020

Bring in the new year with a chance to get into your body and learn how to engage your whole self in your sexual expression. This workshop will teach you the basics of sacred sexuality in a comfortable space where consent is valued. We will start with the breath and then move on to some hands on exercises with partners. You can bring a partner or pair up with someone else in the workshop. We will start at the top of the head and work all the way down to the toes. Clothes will remain on. This workshop is open to people of all genders and sexual orientations. Partial and complete scholarships available.


Poly Millennium Dallas Workshop July 13-15
Coming out as poly, a clinicians perspective

Coming out as poly can move the polyamory movement forward and create more acceptance in the greater culture, however it comes with a variety of risks. This interactive workshop will give us the opportunity to learn from each other about various factors impacting coming out experiences including cultural and religious factors as well as personal identity with regards to race, gender and sexual orientation. We will also discuss strategies we can use to make coming out as poly a smoother experience. We will discuss whether and how to come out in a variety of settings analyzing advantages and disadvantages along the way. The presenter will then share some of the expertise she has gleaned working with clients and others in the community around their coming out process as well as on a book about coming out as poly. This will include some of her own personal coming out experiences.

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