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Upcoming Events

 

Beyond Finger Guns: Flirting Skills for the Nervous and Awkward
Online Event
Tuesday, February 7, 2023 from 7 PM – 9 PM
$40 (sliding scale available)

Stop going endless rounds of “I was just kidding…unless you’re into it?” and learn to flirt with easy charm and calm confidence. Yes, even if you feel hopelessly awkward. Yes, even if you’re shy. Yes, even if you’re neurodivergent!

While some people do seem to be “born flirts”, flirting is absolutely a skill set that you can learn, practice, and get better at over time. Sex and relationship educator Rebecca Rose Vassy has taught many people (including queer and kinky folks) to up their wink-and-a-smile game, and has many practical, concrete strategies to share with you in this workshop.

 

Humiliation without Body Negativity
Online Event
Thursday, February 16, 2023 from 7 PM – 8:30 PM
$40 (sliding scale available)

We often associate humiliation with feeling ashamed about our bodies or mind. For those who struggle with body image, that can mean not wanting to engage in humiliation play during BDSM scenes– but what if you really like being squirmy, shy, and embarrassed in front of people? What if you really want to explore humiliation in a positive way?

Join therapist and kink educator AJ Cheyfitz at the intersection of BDM and mental wellness for an inclusive, trauma-informed session that shows you the way to hot, sexy scenes safe from real-world triggers.

 

Befriend Your Fat Bod: A Body Image Workshop
Online Event
Tuesday, February 21, 2023 from 7 PM – 9 PM
$40 (sliding scale available)

Raise your hand if you’re sick of being told to “just love” your fat body, or of rah-rah “you’re a god/dess/dex!” messages that mean well but don’t leave space for your authentic body image struggles. You, too? Yep, thought so. That’s because you’re being assigned the task of feeling good about your body in a world that oppresses and harms you every step of the way.

In this workshop with fat liberation activist and body image educator Rebecca Rose Vassy, get ready for a practical, radical approach to making peace with your fat body—and making change in the world around you. As a queer, fat woman in the performing arts, Rebecca has walked that very path for years and has a set of tools and techniques to help make that journey easier for you.

 

Swipe Right: Rock Your Dating Apps
Online Event
Tuesday, March 7, 2023 from 7 PM – 9 PM
$40 (sliding scale available)

Can you believe there was a time when using personal ads to date seemed weird or creepy? Now, it sometimes seems like it’s impossible to meet potential partners without using dating apps. If you’re dipping your toes into the wide world of swiping for the first time, or you’ve tried them with little luck, you might be feeling overwhelmed and frustrated. Don’t worry—help is at hand!

In this workshop with dating and relationship educator and coach Rebecca Rose Vassy, you’ll get expert guidance for everything from choosing your app, to writing your profile and choosing your picture, to maximizing your chances for a great match.

 

InFATuated: Better Dating for Fat People
Online Event
Tuesday, March 21, 2023 from 7 PM – 9 PM
$40 (sliding scale available)

Movies, magazines, and the world in general like to scare us with threats of a lonely, sexless life if we dare to exist in a fat body. We’re told that we’re unattractive and undesirable, and that our only hope for intimacy lies with “chubby chasers” or pity sex. Not only is none of that true, but every day, countless fat folks are filling their calendars with dates, getting married, having mind-blowing sex, and being adored by partners who love them as they are, not in spite of it.

We get it—dating is hard for everyone, and it feels so much harder when you’re also struggling with body or confidence issues and a fatphobic world. Join fat activist and sex and relationship educator/coach Rebecca Rose Vassy for a workshop that takes you by the hand and guides you through some of your toughest dating and sex challenges.

 

Practical Polyamory: Don’t F*ck It Up
Online Event
Tuesday, April 4, 2023 from 7 PM – 9 PM
$40 (sliding scale available)

Roll your eyes if you’ve ever done or been burned by one of these as a polyamorist: Unicorn-hunting, veto power, sneakiarchy, Pokemoning, or New Shiny Syndrome. (Wow, lots of brain-gazing there!) Modern polyamory is only about 50 years old and in many ways we’re all still figuring it out as we go, so it’s natural that lots of us would have the same stumbling blocks. But guess what: At this point in time, we can learn from each other and avoid a lot of heartache and harm.

Join polyamory and relationship educator/coach Rebecca Rose Vassy for a virtual workshop that’s humorous and tongue-in-cheek, but grounded in real explorations of some of the most common and harmful polyamory mistakes.

 

Practical Polyamory: Jealousy as an Ally
Online Event
Tuesday, April 18, 2023 from 7 PM – 9 PM
$40 (sliding scale available)

Jealousy: Start a discussion about polyamory, and you can set your watch by the 30 seconds it’ll take for someone to ask how you get over jealousy.

Here’s the secret: You don’t.

However, jealousy is also not the terrible green-eyed monster it’s made out to be. It’s more like a gargoyle– fearsome to look at, highly misunderstood, but serving an important purpose. In this workshop with polyamory educator and coach Rebecca Rose Vassy, explore the realities of jealousy in polyamory, how to manage it in a mature and productive way, and how to even turn it into a valuable ally.

 

Big Lust: Embracing Sexuality in a Fat Body
Online Event
Tuesday, May 2, 2023 from 7 PM – 9 PM
$40 (sliding scale available)

One of the most damaging myths about fatness is that it makes us undesirable, unattractive, even unfuckable. That’s a fatphobic lie, and it’s time for the truth: Pleasure is your birthright no matter your size or shape, you CAN have amazing sex with a fat body, and there are plenty of people out there who genuinely revel in their partners’ fat bodies. The key is in making sure the sex you’re having fits your body– not the other way around.

In this fat liberation workshop with fat activist and sex educator/coach Rebecca Rose Vassy, learn how to embrace your sexuality, your body, and your sex life.

 

Anxiety and Kink: Navigating Community, Scenes, and Relationships
Online Event
Tuesday, May 9, 2023 from 7 PM – 8:30 PM
$40 (sliding scale available)

Many people struggle with anxiety— from nagging, anxious thoughts to full-blown panic attacks, and sometimes it feels like it can pop up out of nowhere. This class delves into how to navigate kink (whether it be events, play, or a power exchange dynamic) when you have anxiety.

Join sex therapist and kink educator AJ Cheyfitz for a workshop that meets you at the intersection of BDSM and mental health. The Q&A will allow for anonymous questions for the safety and comfort of participants. This workshop is inclusive of and welcomes people of all genders, orientations, lovestyles, neurotypes, levels of physical ability, and levels of experience.

 

Practical Polyamory: Communicate & Lubricate
Online Event
Tuesday, May 16, 2023 from 7 PM – 9 PM
$40 (sliding scale available)

It’s the most common thing you’ll hear in discussions of polyamory and ENM– “you have to communicate with your partner(s)!” But what does that actually MEAN? It’s true, walking this path successfully depends on great communication. To do that, you need to be very comfortable with a big toolbox of strategies and skills that take patience and practice. This workshop puts some of the most important of those tools in your hands.

Your guide on this journey is Rebecca Rose Vassy, The Pincus Center’s resident educator as well as a sex, relationship, and body image coach with almost three decades of experience in polyamory. Her compassionate, inclusive style is down-to-earth and sometimes downright earthy. She meets you where you are, because she’s been there herself.

 

BDSM 101 for Providers
Online Event
Tuesday, May 23, 2023 from 7 PM – 8:30 PM
$40 (sliding scale available)

More people than ever are bringing kink and BDSM into their lives. It is vital for modern healthcare and mental health professionals to be able to provide understanding and affirming care. This class discusses BDSM and kink through a mental health lens with sex therapist and kink educator AJ Cheyfitz.

While laypeople interested in the intersection of kink and mental health are welcome to join this workshop, it is designed for healthcare and mental health professionals including therapists, social workers, doctors, nurses, educators, psychiatrists, and others who treat the bodies and minds of people involved in BDSM. Note: We are applying for CEU accreditation for this workshop; we cannot guarantee we will offer CEUs, but will update this statement as we have new information.

 

Practical Polyamory: Navigating Your Polyamorous Dating Life
Online Event
Tuesday, May 30, 2023 from 7 PM – 9 PM
$40 (sliding scale available)

Miscommunications, double-booked dates, and mixed-up birthdays might be hilarious in a sex farce, but that kind of mismanagement could spell doom for your polyamorous/nonmonogamous love life! Learning to navigate the joys and struggles of dating multiple partners can feel overwhelming, but the effort is absolutely rewarding.

Join polyamory educator and coach Rebecca Rose Vassy for a workshop that gives you the tools to succeed in your NM dating life. We’ll talk about some of the most common challenges and pitfalls as well as some of the unique pleasures of consensually dating multiple people.

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Leading Edge Love – Tamara Pincus, Licensed Social Worker, Sex Therapist, Author

This week, her guest is Tamara Pincus, Licensed Social Worker, Sex Therapist & Author (www.tamarapincus.com).  Sumati Sparks, The Open Relationship Coach, (www.SumatiSparks.com) offers coaching sessions via video conferencing, telephone or in person in the San Francisco Bay Area.

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The Swingset invites Tamara Pincus and Rebecca Hiles, authors of the new book “It’s Called Polyamory” onto the show to discuss the many things people both new and experienced to nonmonogamy, specifically, polyamory, may encounter. They join Dylan Thomas, Dr. Liz Powell, and Chris Pent.

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Polyamory is the practice, desire, or acceptance of having more than one intimate partner.

As a certified sex therapist and psychotherapist, who has also made her own journey through the sexual exploration and acceptance, I am able to bring a unique perspective…

For a lay audience, I have offered classes called “Ask the Sex Therapist” where people can find out what they need to know about sexual functioning, BDSM, Sexual Orientation gender identity and ethical non-monogamy.

I have spoken at such events as the Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit, AASECT, Greater Washington Society for Clinical Social Work, SSSS, Catalyst Con, Lotus Blooms and the University of Maryland

In the past I have given talks on: How to be a poly friendly therapist Ethics in psychotherapy

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Past Events

Making Love to the Whole Body
Saturday, January 4th, 2020

Bring in the new year with a chance to get into your body and learn how to engage your whole self in your sexual expression. This workshop will teach you the basics of sacred sexuality in a comfortable space where consent is valued. We will start with the breath and then move on to some hands on exercises with partners. You can bring a partner or pair up with someone else in the workshop. We will start at the top of the head and work all the way down to the toes. Clothes will remain on. This workshop is open to people of all genders and sexual orientations. Partial and complete scholarships available.


Poly Millennium Dallas Workshop July 13-15
Coming out as poly, a clinicians perspective

Coming out as poly can move the polyamory movement forward and create more acceptance in the greater culture, however it comes with a variety of risks. This interactive workshop will give us the opportunity to learn from each other about various factors impacting coming out experiences including cultural and religious factors as well as personal identity with regards to race, gender and sexual orientation. We will also discuss strategies we can use to make coming out as poly a smoother experience. We will discuss whether and how to come out in a variety of settings analyzing advantages and disadvantages along the way. The presenter will then share some of the expertise she has gleaned working with clients and others in the community around their coming out process as well as on a book about coming out as poly. This will include some of her own personal coming out experiences.

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